November is on our doorstep and we are 1/2 way through football season and entering the cold and cuddle zone of the year. My favorite time actually.
Most of you know I am a huge football fan. I have my reasons… mostly it’s about tradition and the old standard of sportsmanship and work ethic… etc. The “New Age” of sports seems to be “show me the money” and is thwarted with distorted thinking of fame and fortune and believe me it’s on both sides owners and players.
I diverge …
There is an argument circulating about Tom Brady and all his years of hard work spent away from his family as a fundamental sin and is a far greater topic than I can cover here in this editorial. I wanted to make a statement to people focusing on the actual problem, not on the dramatized point of view of millions of people who judge and don’t understand. I think they are BOTH right. Tom deserves a full and hard earned reward for a massive career in which she lived an amazing life with travel and beautiful million dollar homes and cars etc. but she also deserves a man who comes home and is involved intimately with the family and assists in the family unit and in her. She deserves a life and career and intimate relationship too.
This is not a “Tom Brady” issue. This is a universal man and woman issue. Men provide and women stay home with the kids. In half a century the roles and rules have changed and everyone is confused. I do not see anything wrong with a man OR woman becoming a master at something they love especially when they are the breadwinner which is traditionally a man. Women traditionally have been expected to take a back seat in almost all cultures. Women are no longer happy to be limited to the role of homemaker and mother but want to also live their dreams. “Stand By Your Man” isn’t what it used to be.
No Tom Brady should not give up his career for his family. His children should absolutely thrive watching a great role model of work ethic and mastering a skill and living out a dream. Giselle should not have to give up her career and be alone 90% of the time raising kids and managing the household under an absentee father. They had the money to hire people to help care for the kids while she works. Tom could have eased back on his work and spent more time at home. They are BOTH right and this is an argument of many households and the subject of many divorces.
Being that we all have different opinions and views of the roles of men and women in society we should use them as an example of how to “do it all better” and NOT demonize or judge Tom for being the top of his field but an absentee father. He isn’t an absentee. I watched my father work his life away. Barely home and run his own business but I never questioned my father’s love for me. Where do you think I get my ethics and work ethic from? He was a great example. Those kids will know and respect their father and its Giselle’s job to make sure those kids know SHE was dissatisfied with how THEY handled the marriage and not with their father on his own right. We as a culture are blurring the lines of responsibilities of the genders for the good and for the bad and all so we can be happier and more fulfilled in our own right. We just need to find out how to achieve this fact and stay married and its called COMMUNICATION. It’s my bet neither one communicated their needs very clearly or if they did neither one listened to the other person who was as trying to communicate their needs. Divorce is sometimes the answer but when all avenues have been closed and exhausted which I am sure they did. No one takes divorce lightly. More than communicating, those of us that do not know them and the exact situation can make guesses but have zero room for judgment. Zero. We can use the example as a point of discussion but the media has lifted Tom to the point of “God” status and now to lower than dirt status. Make up your mind! Is he the “Greatest Player of All Time” or is he now the worst father ever and a deadbeat dad. How can a man fall so far from grace just because she is wasn’t happy? I’m sure they both were not happy and for many years. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US ARE IMPERFECT so stop making these athletes the greatest or the worst from day to day depending on which way the wind blows. Leave him alone and let he and his ex-wife deal with their private demons alone and I say go home and fix your own house. There…. ;)
Harsh I know and I don’t even like Tom Brady. Pat Mahomes is my guy and it won’t be long before the media and the culture demonizes him too for being human because guess what… he is.
The moral here is watch more football games together.
Lol… just making sure you were paying attention
Blessings to all and Wreck ‘Em Tech!